Blowing the dust off this blog….

Things I know:

Girls have to work harder than boys just to be taken as seriously. Female self-confidence is seen as threatening

Gender roles are bullshit.

Sometimes people judge you for what’s on the outside instead of what’s on the inside.

Standing up for what is right is always a harder choice than doing what’s easy.

There is an invisible force always pushing you to go with the crowd.

No matter how hard you try, some people are just not going to like you and that’s ok.

You don’t have to change yourself or compromise your principles just to please people.

The only people who have the power to hurt you are the ones you allow to do so.

You should treasure your friends, defend them fiercely, and you should express gratitude for them in as many ways as you can.

A relationship that makes you feel bad all the time is not worth maintaining. If you make all your decisions in fear that the other person will leave, then you’re not in a healthy relationship.

You can never know enough and you should never stop learning.

It’s ok to learn new information and let it change what you think is true.

It’s ok to not know things. It’s smart to ask people who know more than you.

There isn’t just one right way to do things. I’ve learned to check my judgment when I feel myself thinking that a way different to my way is the wrong way. (Except with bras. A bad bra is always wrong. That’s my line in the sand y’all, and it’s not moving.)

The idea of “choice” terrifies many people. And I mean any choice – how to create a family, how to dress, how to worship (or not worship), how to eat, how to think, how to BE – can cause anger and panic in others.

One human being isn’t inherently better or more valuable than any other human being but a lot of people think that.

So many things I’ve learned and yet no end to the things I don’t yet know. And although I’m not anywhere close to giving up, I know that it’s quite likely I’ve got less time than most people. I do not believe in god(s) but I try my best to live my life as if it doesn’t matter if a god or many gods exist. If I do what is right as much as I can, if I do what is good as much as I can, if I do what is just as much as I can, if I do what is merciful as much as I can, then if one day I have to defend my life, it should be enough that I did my best to make things better than they were before I came along. I also know I’m not perfect and there are many, many days that I’m not as good a person as I strive to be. But I try.
I learned that when people say ugly things, they are saying more about themselves than they are about you. What did Hagrid say when Draco insulted Hermione? He reminded her that she’s smart and talented. He told her, “Don’t you think on it one minute.” I am strong enough to move through the world without fear, to march to the beat of my own drummer, to do what I believe is right, and if this displeases anyone, I’ll not think on it for a minute.

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